How do you write when you haven't established your voice?

After a wonderful Panel Discussion last night at Brain Station with Mary Young, CEO and designer of Mary Young Lingerie, Dhani Oks Founder of UN//TY, co-founder of Off the Grid, Founder of This Shirt Built A School In Africa, and co-founder of Academy of Lions, to name a few, Amber Joliat, founder of MISFIT Studio, and Blogger Lauren McPhillips from This Renegade Love. I have finally had my “AHA” moment as to why I have been unable to upload another blog post. I have been struggling with merging my two loves, psychology and the essence of one’s style, in a meaningful and authentic way that speaks from the core of what I stand for.

 

I have to admit that I am still in awe as I read the many bloggers I follow, how effortlessly their words seem to dance on my computer screen as I amusingly read away. They’re funny, informative, engaging and for the most part very authentic. They know who they are, what they stand for, and most of all they know what their brand represents. It’s impressive that in a sea of similarities, they somehow stand out.

 

In my moment of clarity I was able to admit to myself that I am still struggling with the “VOICE” of my blog, the true vision of my business and what I would like to create for the future. I do not want to paint myself in a way that is not true to who I am. I would not be sustainable if I did.

 

I have decided that lack of awareness is okay. I don’t need to have it all figured out just yet. As my brand evolves, so will my voice. I know that I wish to inspire others to live with a certain amount of grace through their own path with style. I know I have mentioned throughout my blog that Style is SO MUCH MORE than fashion. It is the way you walk, the way your energy graces or disrupts a room. It all depends on what you want to bring to the table, and how you want to be remembered. I also want to be able to have some aspect of social enterprise through the creativity of not only myself but also others. I want to develop a community of likeminded people doing extraordinary things that inspire others to live life with purpose.  That inspiration piece is part of the reason I came up with the name Inspired Ego. 


Through attending this panel discussion it reinforced the following:

Community is KEY!! Know who your community is. Work with people who work with you, engage with them authentically and build on those relationships. Honour their wants without compromising your own.  Try to create what you are looking for, as in, “where would you want to hang out”? Paint the bigger picture for others and you will find that others will want to participate.

“Things come from hunger, community and connection” don’t be afraid to go after what you want. Decide what you are here to do, know your vision, and then decide how you are going to give back through your passion.

The hard times make your brand “the struggle is the strength” this is what makes your brand unique. Things are not always going to be easy; the struggle gives your brand a story and depth. Just remember to stick with it and honour your passion even when it feels impossible.  

Put on your blinders to what everyone else is doing and pay attention to what you are doing because “you can’t compare your beginning to someone else’s middle”.

Consistency is so important but mistakes are also of great value. Know what your community likes and dislikes. What is important to them? When you establish a relationship and trust, ask your community for feedback. Its important that they, your community, knows that you value their opinions.  

Understand that you, above all others, have to believe in what you are doing and your process. It takes time and dedication, remember, no one is an overnight success. That means there will be some sacrifices; “You may have to say goodbye to a lot of things to say hello to the good that will come”.

The number one piece of advice was TO BE AUTHENTIC! People can read right through the facade when you are trying to be something you’re not.  You also want to be able to keep it going long term.

 

So the take away from all of this is be true to yourself, your vision and your voice will come. Don’t be afraid to let your lights shine babes, and enjoy the ride. xo

 

Inspiration, Adventure and Stylish living on purpose...

 

21 Questions from the Woman Behind the Ego

If you are reading this I have to thank you for joining me on this crazy path! I seriously cannot believe that I have a website, a blog and so much love and support from all of you. I am quickly coming to realize that there is a certain amount of vulnerability one must have to put their thoughts, emotion and passion out there for the world to see. It’s not easy to let go and let little bits of your light shine. I have to say I admire so many of the men and woman that I follow who do just that! Pretty much on the daily! It’s incredible really, kudos to you guys!

I thought, I would answer a few questions about who I am and some of what makes me tick. (Whoa, deep breathe) Let’s just have fun with this.

 

1. Who inspires you to be a better person?  Well this one isn’t the easiest to answer...I am one who believes in mentorship, and I am constantly looking for guidance to be a better person than I was just yesterday in many aspects of my life (yeah I know, little sappy) but it’s true.  There are many people I look up to in my daily life, some online, some who are not even aware and some who I have reached out to. However, the main person would probably be my little brother, Nolan. He has had some huge ups and downs in his life and yet he always seems to find a way to get back to the things that are most important.  He is so positive, and has a heart of gold, he is constantly working on becoming a better man for his family, his work and any other lucky person who is in his life. Ha, I love you big guy! 

 

2. If you didn’t have to work for a year what would you do instead? Easy, I would travel the world to explore and experience other countries and cultures. It would be amazing.  

 

3.What always makes you laugh? Okay, please don’t think I am an AWFUL person but I just can’t keep it together when I see someone fall.  (Even writing that makes me giggle) I don’t know what it is, but I think it’s hilarious, and when I am having a bad day I have been known to source out a fall compilation on YouTube. I’m shaking my head as I type that... but rest assured I will always help you up, I will just be laughing uncontrollably. I know it’s horrible.

 

4.What is the largest crowd you have ever been in? Hmmm well I have been to many professional sporting events including the epic Chiefs vs Patriot on Monday Night Football, where the Chiefs WON and set the record for loudest outdoor sporting event of all time!  I have been among the crowd at the Vatican when the Pope addressed us in like 10 different languages (it was VERY impressive). I have also attended the Austin City Music Festival, in Texas (and NO, it was not County)....but, I think I would have to say that the biggest crowd I have ever been in was at Disney Land, that place is a ZOO!

 

5.Do you ever dance if there is no music? Yes, ALL THE TIME! Truth be told, I’m a little bit of a goof...

 

6. What was your favorite summer activity as a kid? We grew up on the lake so we were always on the water. I was lucky because at the time all my father’s siblings lived down the same road, so all of us cousins used to spend hours playing down at the beach! It was awesome!

 

7. What happened the last time you cried? Ahh, well I am a very sensitive soul. I often get moved by, well pretty much anything that evokes true emotion in another human. I once actually cried watching a coach of a big league football team bend a knee to pray to the football gods after a Hail Mary pass that won the game. It wasn’t even a team we follow. So this one is a little tricky. Hmm, Oh yeah, I cried my heart out while creating this website for my blog, it wasn’t a proud moment but I almost packed it all in. As you can see I made it through. Yay!

 

8. What do you think about first thing in the morning? COFFEE!

 

9. What are your Parent’s best qualities? My Mother’s tenacious strength and my Father’s patience

 

10. What would be your personal heaven? Having a home on some beautiful tropical beach surrounded by those I love. Although to be clear, they would have their own houses, walking distance to mine (I love them all dearly, but space is good too) ;)

 

11. What or who motivates you to exercise? I have a few for this, good health is key so exercise is all part of that, as for people...My friend Karla who just opened MVMNT in Kenora and my other dear friend Amanda, who is one of the co-owners of Boreal Paddle, she has one of the healthiest diets I know, vegan and all, they’re both amazing!

 

12. If you could have your own TV show what would it be?  First, I would LOVE to have my own TV SHOW!!! I would travel all over the world, showcasing and celebrating people who have made the choice to make their dreams a reality!  Showing how they got from A to B and talking about what it means to let go of doubt to purse passion, like mini inspirational biography’s, in hopes of encouraging other to do the same. Ahhh, a girl can dream...

 

13. Why did you start your blog? I wasn’t entirely honouring who I am as a person so I am starting this to have a creative outlet that will hopefully encourage people to embrace who they are, to take risks and look good doing it.

 

14. What is your future plans for your career?  Pleases see number 12!!

I have been working on a small business/charity idea for a little while now, and well, I hope to talk about the ups and downs, and take whatever may come, together here on the blog. In hopes that one-day I can launch that idea that is so special to my heart. I believe in giving back so a portion of all funds received from this endeavor will go into an endowment to help young entrepreneurs begin their own small business, encouraging others to explore their passions and live life on purpose.

 

15. How many countries are currently on your bucket list? 62 but I am willing to add more!

 

16. If you could have any pet what would it be?  A beautiful big black Jaguar, who would mess with that, could you imagine the looks I would get on the walking trails...it would be priceless! 

 

17. If you could no longer live in Canada and had to move to another country where would it be and why?  This is also tough...I have 62 countries on my bucketlist but who’s to say I would like to live in one place or the other? I would have to say Mexico, on a beautiful beach (maybe Tulum). I loved my time in Mexico and I would have dual Citizenship.

 

18. What was your favorite Halloween costume as a child?  I don’t really remember? As an adult I historically decide an hour before the party that I’m going and whip something together. My most favorite being a sugar skull outfit I put together, painting my face from a tutorial online using kids face paint and eyeliner, weaved some big red roses into my hair and wore black lace and a huge red sash around my waist from my closet.  

 

19. Do you have any Tattoos? Yes, One. It’s a tribal cross in white ink on the back of my neck. Unless you were looking for it I bet you wouldn’t even notice it.

 

20. How do you handle stress? Sometimes I surprise myself, and sometimes I just need to have a good cry. It depends on what kind of stress; work pressure helps me to be more productive. I also practice the Ho’oponopono mantra. I love you; I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you. The gist of it is, all that comes into our life has been brought on by us, it’s about taking complete responsibility and forgiving your self in order to let it go. Some people simply say “everything happens for a reason” Or that there is “no good, nor bad” just experiences. Takes the sting out of the “stress”.

 

21. Are you a risk taker? I would say yes, I have lived in a few different places Mexico, Toronto, and England, to name a few, and have never been scared to take a leap in the unknown, job wise. I guess you can say that I believe that I will always be provided for, which makes it a lot easier to get out of your comfort zone.  The one area where I wish to be a little braver would be when I am investing in myself, in my own dreams, and passion. Happy to say the blog is a baby step in the right direction.

 

All right that is it for now, loves.

 

Inspiration, Adventure and Stylish Living on Purpose.

If there are other Questions you have, or if you would like me to post about something in particular, please feel free to comment below…xo

 

My Non-Resolution, Resolution for 2017

I know I am not alone in saying that 2016 was a tough year. There was much to learn and a lot of looking within, for me personally. I can’t begin to tell you how much I grew in the last few months alone. Some things were terribly painful but I am happy to say that I feel a great sense of gratitude from the challenges I was faced with.

With that said, Hello, and WELCOME, 2017. Many of you may be working on or have completed a set of this years resolutions or maybe you have given up on this concept altogether? Heck, maybe that is this year’s resolution? NO judgment, over here!!

For me having a resolution has never really worked. I always start well intentioned, then become very relaxed with what I have set out to do come mid February. 

So this year I am looking at it a little differently. This year I want to focus more on what brings me JOY! Simple.

That one simple act will have a profound effect on all aspects of my life. Helping me to focus more on self-awareness and personal growth. Instead of feeling bad about losing sight of a resolution that historically, would bring much less value.

So that’s it, one simple goal: to focus on that which brings me JOY!! A practice I hope to bring forward in the years to follow.

 

Inspiration, Adventure, and Stylish Living on Purpose 

 

What about you? Do you have any plans, goals or challenges you would like to face in 2017?